Okay, I need second opinions.
Hypothetic case:
A guy contacts you at a single page on the internet. He seems nice and you talk online, exchange numbers and talk on the phone. You even view each other on web cam. There’s definite attraction and the two of you would like to meet. You set a date, drive into town, he cancels because he’s busy with work, you agree because you are tired from nightshift anyway. The two of you agree to meet the next afternoon. At 11 am, he cancels - work. He tells you that though he’s awfully sorry, that’s his life (lots of short notice jobs). You are sad, but can’t change the fact. He agrees to spend some time together on the weekend (which you are supposedly off work). Whenever he says he’ll call back later, it’s usually much later (you’re asleep) or only when you prompt him by calling him yourself. A day later, he calls and you have to tell him that there are 3 sick colleagues at work and that you would have to do late shift on the kids ICU on Saturday, but at the same time propose breakfast at 10am Saturday morning, your place, your treat. He evades and instead wants to meet Saturday after work (around 10:15pm). You have a charity run the next day and are reluctant to go out late, tell him so, he says I call you back later and hangs up. After a while you text message him, providing two solutions: breakfast Saturday 10am or late dinner Sunday after work, with him driving you home afterwards. His answer is “Well, babe, I think we are not going to manage meeting each other ever. I really like you a lot.”
Am I the only one confused right now??
Hypothetic case:
A guy contacts you at a single page on the internet. He seems nice and you talk online, exchange numbers and talk on the phone. You even view each other on web cam. There’s definite attraction and the two of you would like to meet. You set a date, drive into town, he cancels because he’s busy with work, you agree because you are tired from nightshift anyway. The two of you agree to meet the next afternoon. At 11 am, he cancels - work. He tells you that though he’s awfully sorry, that’s his life (lots of short notice jobs). You are sad, but can’t change the fact. He agrees to spend some time together on the weekend (which you are supposedly off work). Whenever he says he’ll call back later, it’s usually much later (you’re asleep) or only when you prompt him by calling him yourself. A day later, he calls and you have to tell him that there are 3 sick colleagues at work and that you would have to do late shift on the kids ICU on Saturday, but at the same time propose breakfast at 10am Saturday morning, your place, your treat. He evades and instead wants to meet Saturday after work (around 10:15pm). You have a charity run the next day and are reluctant to go out late, tell him so, he says I call you back later and hangs up. After a while you text message him, providing two solutions: breakfast Saturday 10am or late dinner Sunday after work, with him driving you home afterwards. His answer is “Well, babe, I think we are not going to manage meeting each other ever. I really like you a lot.”
Am I the only one confused right now??
Comments, please!?!?!
4 comments:
omg..
what a mess!
first, im sorry to hear all that.it must sucks..
second..i dont really know what he meant, but sounded like he was giving up in a coward way, cuz, he said u r never gonna meet, but that he liked u..
kind of trowing the fault at u..
like.."i like u, i did my best, but we r not gonna meet, so, who's fault is it?"..
i might be wrong and i want u to have this date, but, try not to get hurt!!
[sorry, im kind of sentimental tday, not a good day..im just as confused as u r..]
bye bye
loove
kisses
;*
Rea,
I don't really know you. So you asked for opinion...Here you go. I know this from experience. Let him chase you. I don't see him chasing or given a chance to chase when I read this post. Nothing kills the romance faster than when the girl initiates most of the contact. I say most...In the beginning let the the dude lead. I know I know women will rag me for this, but ask any guy. What intrigues him more, when the girl chases him, or a girl lets him pursue her give him something to fight for. I have asked and that is what guys tell me. Every guy where I did the chasing NEVER worked out. My hubs pursued me, and one day a guy will pursue your heart too. No matter how hard it is, do not call, SMS...leave him alone. If he really likes you, he will find you. If he is a turd and messing with you, better off without him. I know it is hard and hurts...I have been there.
Sorry, maybe I said too much... I wish you all the best in heart matters. I waited a LONG LONG time for Mr. Right. It was not always easy. But he was worth it. I hope I was at least a little helpful...
Susan
Hi Dear,
I think, there is much to say. I will try to search for words and then I can tell you (much about this happened action). If I find words and time, I will help you, sure! Look up girl and enjoy the lifetime at the moment. Dreamboy will coming, I'm sure!!!
Yours Diva
Hi Rea,
I agree with Susan, but emotionally I would go for the guy. There is a book of how to find the guy for your life and it really says - let him come if he is interested he will. The whole situation is hard, but maybe he is afraid to really meet or he is a real coward or he was wrong with some details he told you... there are many options, but the best advice is to go on with your life, go out for coffee, ice cream with nice company you enjoy and if he comes again - ignore him, block him, but once you are sure you want to talk be nice and dont make any acusations! Dont think about this guy too much otherwise he hurts your feelings too much. Maybe we talk on the phone one of those days. Here everything is fine.
Kisses and a big understanding hug,
Jana
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